Dear Mums, Please Talk to Your Husbands
I am over the sexist parenting memes that only mothers seem to post. And for the most part, most of the mums I know who post or share these on social media, their husbands aren’t on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram so I have to ask, what’s the point? Do you really want all your friends and family to know what a good a mother you are, or how bad a father your partner is?
Mums are fantastic, don’t get me wrong. Mums generally don’t get to rest when the kids are around, but, if the dad is an active and hands-on father, as well as being an active and hands-on husband ( I mean helping with the chores, not hands on anything else) my expectation is neither does he.
My wife complains nearly every night that our almost two-year-old son has to sit on her lap and pick at her dinner. I offer to take him but at dinner he doesn’t really want to have a bar of me. But then, seeing I’m up early with the kids, what she rarely sees (although she has witnessed this twice this week alone) is that when I am having my breakfast, it’s one spoonful for me and the next for Master (Almost) Two. And I accept this as a part of parenting.
Last night I spent 90 minutes getting him to sleep. Yes, 90 minutes. He really didn’t want to go to sleep and preferred to grab my beard or the cord on my hoodie and giggle like it was the middle of the day and we were playing at the park. Seriously, I just felt like saying “just go the f…” well Noni Hazlehurst said it best, so I will leave that there….
As he’s still sleeping in his cot he can’t get himself out of bed. More often than not he calls out “Dad, Dad, Dad, DAD, DAD, DAD, DAD….” before eventually moving over to “Mum” if I haven’t got to him quick enough.
Now I’m not trying to talk up how good a father I am because it is not as though I have gone above and beyond ANY call of duty of being a parent. But what I am trying to show here is that I do my fair share because that is the expectations of my wife; and truly, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I don’t enjoy changing a nappy full of poo, but I do it. I don’t like being a “short-order-cook” (Mum, I get it now) when the kids want 5 different options for breakfast, but I give them what they want (within reason; better to have them eat than to starve… as long as it’s healthy).
And because the phrase “a mother’s job is never finished” reads as “a parent’s job is never finished” in our household, I really take offence to these mum/mom memes. So mums, I ask you, please stop sharing this sexist drivel, and if you feel that they apply to you because you are not getting the help you need, talk to YOUR husband about it, not me.
That is all. I’m out of here. I’ve got some kids to go and look after…
So tell me, am I wrong to suggest these memes are sexist?
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