What Is Penis And Vagina?

In a parenting group that I am a member of on Facebook, this question was posed to the group;

How did you explain the difference between men and women to your child? More specifically if your child notices different private parts because they ran into the bathroom while you were in the shower or going to the restroom. When I was a kid, my parents told me about Adam and Eve. That’s definitely not how I want to go about this subject. My son is only 2 so this is harder than I thought.

How did I answer? Pretty much the same way I always answer this question when posted in online forum or Facebook groups;

We taught both our sons that boys have a penis. It wasn’t a hard stretch; the fact is they can see their own penis. They know Mummy doesn’t have one. Instead she has a vagina. They have both seen her absence of a penis and without going into graphic detail, they know her nether region does in fact house a vagina. It is not as hard as people let you believe.

Another person in the group answered along the lines of my response (she had actually responded before me but I thought I would give my honest response to this topic without reading the other responses so as not to be influenced in any way) and she went into further detail about explaining “chromosomes and development of the characteristics.

Other parents answered pretty simply “use real words like penis and vagina” and “penis and vagina” or “vagina and penis” appeared in many other responses.

When I see this question pop up in parenting forums I sometimes feel like it’s supposed to be a trick question or the $1,000 general knowledge clue on the American television quiz show Jeopardy!

“I’ll take ‘Names of Body Parts’ for $1,000 please Alex…”

THESE ARE THE CORRECT NAMES FOR MALE AND FEMALE GENITALS TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN…

“What is Penis and Vagina?”

Oh, I’ll be getting that one thousand dollars, you can bet your life I will.

The sad thing is, the mother who asked the question came back with this reply after a few people had given their opinion;

Thanks. This is basically how I explained it and I was told I did it wrong because he is too young.

Too young? Too young for what? Too young to learn correct terminology? Seriously?

Now I’m not having a go at the mother who posted this question, nor am I having a go at her for that further reply she gave. She is trying to do the right thing but is being told something completely different by some older members of her family. Maybe pee-pee and v-jay worked well in the last millennium, but I don’t believe it cuts it in 2014.

Two words people; Grow. Up.

My mum taught me to call my penis “my willy.” I’m not entirely sure why she did this and unfortunately didn’t ask her about this before she died. You might have noticed I didn’t write “passed on” or any other euphemism for “died” because when it comes to teaching children I don’t believe that we should teach them alternatives to the correct words because if we do, we are teaching them that there is something wrong with using these words.

If you ARE using words like “pee-pee” or “doodle” for penis and “v-jay” or “flower” for vagina (WTF?) your kids WILL learn the correct words. Whether your kids are hanging out with my kids who might use the word in front of them, or whether they are learning it as part of social studies at school, your kids will learn the real words.

The thing is, I believe that they should have already learned them from you; and if your child is anything like I was, they might start wondering why you feel the need to use baby names for body parts. Yes, doing this is pretty childish.

So let’s do this together. You CAN do it. Say these words now; penis and vagina… or if you prefer, vagina and penis.

That wasn’t so bad was it?

What did you teach your children say for their private parts? What about your friends and family, what words are they using? And what did your parents teach you to say?

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4 thoughts on “What Is Penis And Vagina?

  1. We have always used the proper terms with our children and that seems to have worked out fine. Of course, when my four year old daughter is chanting “PEE-NUS” over and over again on a car ride it does get a bit tiresome. And, thanks to the “knowledge” of my older kids, there are loads of laughs whenever they hear of someone named Dick. Seriously. I’m sure they get that from their mother. 😉

  2. We went with penis and vulva cause that is what they can see. Our kids have had some pretty deep conversations with check out operators on the subject 😃

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